The Importance of Online Counselling: Why? Because I feel too busy!
I believe that few people would disagree with the idea that in today’s world we are surrounded by personal worries, distrust, pain, suffering and challenges. Not to mention all we see and hear in the media. Bear with me here, I know this can sound bleak, right? Well Maybe not…
Sometimes, because our vision is blurred by all the negative headlines that are imposed upon us, we can’t see all the hope, love, care, compassion and beauty that is also around us every single day. One reason for this is the fast-paced world that we are living in. As the old adage states, “we don’t see the wood for the trees”. It is just so easy to see and feel the negatives in our life, and so hard to hold on to the good and recognise it when it is staring us right in the face.
Yesterday I had my own usual online counselling session immediately after getting up. To give some background to this, I start work at 10am and finish at 7pm and wanted to find a therapist that could fit in with my life. Personally, I think going to therapy can be hard enough, even for therapists, the least I can do for myself is to start reducing the anxiety around time and travel. With this in mind I choose to work with an online counsellor.
In the interest of full disclosure, my own therapy doesn’t look very different from my clients. To start with, I am sitting on front a kind-looking person, who I feel I have a bond with, and who I also feel genuinely cares about my life. The first thought I have when I think of my therapist is simply that they are really easy to talk to.
Yesterday started with Nial asking about my week, and to be honest I found myself rambling a little bit about the clinic I run. As soon as I made a joke that we both knew was just a space filler and a way not to discuss what was really on my mind, he gave me that knowing look like I have been caught. I was caught. I was avoiding what I really wanted to talk about, because I didn’t want Nial to think I wasn’t a great therapist, the feeling that I should never be stressed or warn out. Sounds crazy, but its true, even a therapists feels like they are not good enough.
Nial gently brought me back to the point, asking what I was I was feeling right now. I realized I was a little tense in my shoulders and admitted that I kind of felt some stress. This is where we really began to work. To be a therapist we should become the best version of ourselves. Therapists are not perfect but working on ourselves is just another aspect that separates a therapist from talking to another friend or family member, that may very well tell you what you want to hear.
Nial suggests a new way to check in with my body and calm down, I know many techniques myself, but learning more in therapy is beneficial for both myself and my clients. He asks me to focus on my breath and imagine a place in work that I like to go to take a rest or a breath. I tell him about a room that is currently unused that I like to sit in with a coffee. It sounds a little silly at first, but I try it and it actually takes me out of the focus on worries. I start to feel a little more relaxed, talking about what I love about my job, my clients, writing, research, and slowly we start looking at what is really bothering me. Together we break it down into smaller steps so it doesn’t feel so overwhelming.
There is a lot going on in my life and we spoke about other issues that I will let remain within our session. What is most important for me, is that finding the time online to speak to my therapist is what helps me to continue to be an effective therapist myself. I have a busy schedule, but I will not let that stop me from getting what I need to truly make the most out of this life I have been given. I finally see, “The wood from the trees”.
The importance of mental health has never been more pronounced. With increasing stressors from work, personal life, and global events, many of us are seeking support to navigate our own emotional and psychological challenges. Online counselling has emerged as a vital resource, offering accessibility, convenience, and a sense of safety that traditional in-person therapy may not always provide.
- Accessibility can be so important
One of the most significant advantages of online counselling is its accessibility. Individuals who may have faced barriers to receiving mental health care—such as those living in remote areas, people with disabilities, or those with tight schedules—can now access professional support from the comfort of their homes.
- Flexibility and Convenience
Online counselling offers unparalleled flexibility. Clients can schedule sessions at times that suit them, whether early in the morning or late at night. This adaptability is particularly beneficial for those with demanding jobs, parenting responsibilities, or other commitments.
- Anonymity and Comfort
For some, the prospect of entering a therapist’s office can be intimidating. Online counselling provides a level of anonymity that can help ease anxiety. Clients can engage in therapy from a their own safe space, This comfort can lead to more honest and productive conversations, ultimately enhancing the therapeutic process.
- A Wide Range of Options
The internet has expanded the availability of mental health professionals, allowing clients to find therapists who specialize in specific areas relevant to their needs—be it anxiety, depression, relationship issues, or trauma. This variety means that individuals can select a counsellor who resonates with them, improving the chances of a successful therapeutic relationship.
In the end
Online counselling is more than just a trend; it is a crucial component of modern mental health care. By offering accessibility, flexibility, and a comfortable environment, it empowers individuals to take charge of their mental wellness. As we continue to embrace technology in our daily lives, it is essential to recognize and advocate for the vital role online counselling plays in fostering a healthier, more supportive society. If you or someone you know is considering therapy, exploring online counselling options could be a transformative step toward healing and growth.
Alan Oates
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